The world around us is changing at an exponential rate, so it is often difficult to respond to the new reality. What is true for individuals is even more true for institutions, including our “living tradition” Unitarian Universalist congregations. I’m not saying this to scold or to shame, but to point out that responding to a changing context is hard….really hard.
Brain science helps us to understand that we create and use mental models of our reality that help us to filter and make sense of our experiences. But our mental models aren’t always accurate or helpful. As a white middle-class female, I grew up with a mental model of the world operating in a way that gave men privilege that they didn’t see, especially in my previous career as a mechanical engineer. My mental model did not enable me to see that I had my own privilege–being white.
I find that metaphors can be helpful in helping us to articulate things that can’t be articulated using rational prose. The modern metaphor for mental models that resonates with me is exemplified in the movie The Matrix, especially in the Red Pill/Blue Pill scene: (Thanks to the Red Pill Brethren for inspiring my use of this metaphor!)
Congregatonal leaders who choose the “blue pill” don’t want to challenge their current mental model of how their church is functioning. They are comfortable with continuing being a church that meets their needs, offering them:
- community-building social events
- pastoral care provided by the minister
- inspiring Sunday services
- forums for lively discussion
- space and programming for their children and youth
What we are learning is that most of the churches that continue to operate in this comfortable mode are declining…including Unitarian Universalist congregations.
My invitation is for our congregational leaders to be willing to take the red pill and open themselves to challenging their own mental models of what our congregations could and should be. We have many Unitarian Universalist congregations in CERG that have done just that and are now vibrant and growing. Some are new, such as the Wellsprings Congregation in Chester Springs, PA. Others have been around for much longer, such as First Unitarian Church of Rochester, NY, organized in 1829. And some started as fellowships back during the post WWII baby boom, such as the UU Congregation of Fairfax, VA.
Here’s a short list of qualities that these vibrant congregations all share:
- A clear and inspiring mission that guides their ministry
- Paying attention to the changing cultural context and responding by staying relevant to younger members
- A commitment to individual spiritual growth–and most importantly–depth
- A commitment to a high level of lay leader training and meaningful service
- A commitment to serve needs beyond their walls
I know there are other congregations in CERG and the other regions that are doing similar work! I would love to hear about them in the comments.